Don’t look to others to determine whether or not you will be successful in reaching your goals. You may or may not find encouragement from the people around you, when what you need to do is different from what everyone else is doing.
In fact, you may often feel all alone in your struggle. People may try and tempt you to “just cheat a little this once.” Just remember, giving in once leads to giving in over and over again.
Don’t let your success be based on whether or not you have the support of others. This is YOUR life and YOU must decide what is best for you. Determine in your own mind what your goals are and what it will take to get there. Then don’t let anyone deter you!
Now David was greatly distressed … But David encouraged and strengthened himself in the Lord his God. (1 Samuel 30:6 AMP excerpt)
Just like David encouraged and strengthened himself when he was distressed, so can you. Surround yourself with people who are like minded and speak life to you. Distance yourself from those who want to criticize or belittle your efforts, or consistently make stumbling blocks for you.
We must let go of our need for validation from others. You have to know yourself and what you require to be healthy and whole, and do what you need to do no matter what anyone else thinks. Your critics may just be secretly jealous of your potential success.
When you don’t feel you have anyone to believe in you for your success, know that there is One always ready to help you. Others may not completely understand your situation, but God knows every private detail of what you’re going through.
If you start to feel discouraged, get your eyes back on your goal and off of other people. Let them think what they will about you — but YOU just keep going towards your goal.
While I am fortunate to have encouragers around me, there have been times I have felt so alone at my low points. Maybe it’s not that the people around you don’t want the best for you, it’s just that you’re introducing change, and change is hard for many. We’re creatures of habit – habit brings comfort even if it is unhealthy, and changing habits is uncomfortable even if it is for the better.
I know good support is not always easy to come by, so that’s why I want this to be a positive resource for you to find words of encouragement that will lift you back up. When you feel you want to give up, I want you to come here and find encouragement to believe that YES! You can do what you set out to do!